If you are in a relationship, Sex and Menopause is a subject which needs to be dealt with as a couple.
Many marriages will be affected by the female’s surge of testosterone prior to her Menopause which can leave her temperamental and sexually insatiable – and this is particularly noticeable (and often rather annoying for her man when he begins to become aware of a gradual lessening of libido at the same age.
But it’s the mood swings and hot sweats that can really get a girl down. Bad tempered outbursts, hot sweats, lack of sleep, the feeling that we have no identity of our own accompanied by the female equivalent of a troublesome erection that won’t go away.
And, once things settle down, she then starts to feel the full effects of the Menopause with a drop in sexual desire most commonly due to problems with vaginal thinning as a result of the reduction in oestrogen supplies. Sex starts to hurt. Whether it’s at entry or exit or during the thrusting. A stray sharp fingernail or hangnail can cause a tiny split that will feel like a gash the size of the Mariana Trench.
However, the consequences of not dealing with Menopause together can exacerbate a man’s version of the same event. He’s starting to notice thinning on top and increasing girth around his middle and he’s not getting sex. She doesn’t feel desirable and, ipso facto, does not desire him. He feels unwanted and starts to search for a trophy girlfriend to emphasise his battered masculinity.
And, if you’re in a relationship after a divorce, it’s hard for the man to adjust if his woman used to be a voluptuous vamp and has suddenly turned into a dried up prude.
It is vital that you work through these issues as a partnership. You have to talk to each other, explain your fears and be open about what is happening to your bodies if you want to grow old together.
One of the best things for dealing with thinning is regular vaginal activity. If you use plenty of lube or even wear one of the new skin-like latex-free condoms, this can make the whole event far less painful and, therefore, far more likely to be successful. Fear of what may happen can be a huge turn off. If a girl has confidence that it’s not going to hurt, she is bound to be more receptive to her man’s desires.
And if he encourages her to use vibrators or pelvic floor exercisers to stimulate the area, this will also help to boost circulation to the area and prevent further thinning – as well as ensuring that her cunt retains its elasticity and muscle control, adding to his pleasure.
At the end of the day, Menopause is something that must be gone through. Some women will bear it more easily than others – especially if they have the full support of their menfolk. And to lose the intimacy of sex and possibly an entire relationship for want of a bit of care and attention during what is a natural phenomenon would be a crime.
Originally posted 2011-07-19 22:13:06. Republished by Blog Post Promoter